Saturday, May 28, 2011

Thoughts formed over Mexican food

What kind of woman actively pursues a married man?  A married man with a child?

What sort of character must you possess to text things like "I'll leave the door unlocked, in case you're able to get away"?

What kind of woman ignores a wife's plea of "I need you to go away, like you promised you would"?

What kind of man actively pursues a woman who is not his wife?  What sort of father hurts the mother of his child in that way?  What is he teaching his daughter about how men should treat their wives?

How deeply flawed must one be to repeatedly lie and cheat?

What kind of man ignores his wife's plea of "If you love me, if you love us, please stop this"?

What kind of woman actively allows herself to be disrespected and demeaned?  What example does she set for her child?

How badly has she been hurt that she accepts that an unfaithful spouse is simply her lot in life, the way of things, nothing that can be helped?

What sort of woman is able to live in a world of instability and insecurity and fear that's been created by the man to whom she's devoted her life?

What kind of friend can listen to a tale such as this and not want to punch the lying cheating bastard in his face?  How could you not want to pull the triflin' bitch's hair from her ugly head?

How much trouble can you really get into for egging someone's car?

What sort of friend could ignore a scorned wife's plea of "Let's just go for a drive - please?"?


  1. Oh man...that is tough, horrible, awful stuff.

    Hurts me just to read.

    So sorry...

  2. My friend, she deserves so much more. She's so warm and giving and fun and loyal - but for some reason men have never been nice to her, and she loves this one despite the fact that he hurts her. She's spent half her life with him. They have a child. There's no easy answer. It's heartbreaking.

  3. I am so sorry for your friend. It sounds like she has a good supporter in you.

  4. I hate cheaters, men and/ or women. I also hate the people they cheat with. The ones who get cheated on? Damn I feel bad for them. I'm sorry your friend is going through this right now. At least she has you.

  5. Hey Lady just poppin over to say hi from FTLOB! LOVE your blog! You have a new subscriber, have a great day!

  6. Wowzers, lots of thoughts. You blog name had me way off track!
    I don't understand cheaters, its just not fair.

  7. Hmm. If I was her I would completely ignore the other woman. And tell the bloke that if it doesn't stop pronto then locks are getting changed and stuff dumped on the lawn. But it's easier to write that than do it. I hope she's ok and you sound like a good friend.

  8. I'm sad for your friend as her tale hits close to home as my parents' marriage ended due to my father's cheating. I was in sixth grade at the time and I remember a lot of tears in my house and it forced me to grow up quickly. My heart really goes out to your friend and her child(ren).

    On a more positive note, thanks for stopping by my blog. :)

    I hope you have a great Sunday.

  9. Yes, how awful. What kind of woman is able to live in a world of instability and insecurity you ask. A woman in love. So hard. So awful

  10. That sounds.. painful. In a very literal way. This is no comparison, but before Luke, every one of my boyfriends cheated on me. With the last one, I clearly remember telling him I knew but I'd let it go if he just stopped seeing her. Obviously, he didn't.

    I feel her pain. My thoughts and prayers are with her and the little one.


  11. Natalie, I feel you on this one. And what a great way to put such thoughts into words. My sister went through this. Was the scorned and disrespected wife, and I used to ask myself these same questions.

  12. By the way, I could have sworn I was already following your blog. How ditzy am I?

    Wait, don't answer that.

    I'm following now. Hopefully. Or maybe I'm dreaming...

  13. My mom went through this with my dad. It was hard to see her go through it. It took a long time for me to trust my father after thant. I understand how you must feel for your friend.

  14. I've always thought cheaters were the lowest people, and deliberately sleeping with a married man...these people are cockroaches.

    It's awful listening to stories like that and feeling helpless to do anything for your friend but listen.

  15. Not that cheating is okay... but you never know what lies are being told behind the scenes. When I was a party to a married woman's cheating, she told me all the classic lies: "I'm leaving him," "He's gay and I'm just here so his family doesn't disown him," etc. So after 3 years of her "about to leave" him, I gave her an ultimatum - him or me. She chose him. Then they had a baby (gay, right?). Then they got divorced. She and I have become only distant acquantances since then.

    Also, helping her cheat made me feel like a dirtbag.

    I don't know what sense this makes. It's late and I'm tired. :)

  16. this makes me so sad and mad and makes me think of evil and all kinds of stuff.


Please don't make me cry.


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