I hate conflict. I want everyone to like me all the time. Yelling? Forgeddaboudit. Yelling breaks down lines of communication - you'll never convince anyone you're right if you're screaming in their face.
There was lots of conflict at work yesterday, and it culminated with one co-worker yelling in the face of another. To complicate matters further, the yeller was our boss. That sets a lovely comfortable tone for the office, feel me?
I don't deal well with yelling - I think it's disrespectful and never the right thing to do, particularly in a "professional" setting. I understand emotions take hold and sometimes we feel like we'll explode, but screaming and shouting? Grown-ups don't solve problems that way.
I'm nervous about two things today as I get ready to start my workday - I'm nervous that the boss won't apologize, which I think is a necessary thing, no matter how justified he's convinced himself he was; and I'm nervous that my friend will leave, which is what I would do if I'd been in her shoes yesterday. Respect is such an important part of any relationship, and hurling angry words at a person is a sign that respect is sorely lacking.
Mistakes were made on both sides, is my view, and this hurdle can be overcome and we can all move forward in a happy-go-lucky manner - but there will have to be a calm discussion of the facts from yesterday; I don't think that scene will fade from our minds and go away without some real closure.
And I'm going to be late.