Sunday, October 18, 2015
Except G wants to nurse. It's 6 o'clock. I'm going to let her, and if she really does go to bed, well, I won't argue. I'm tired too.
Saturday, October 17, 2015
Blogging on the go? Can that be a thing? Probably not. There just aren't enough hours. Today it's a thing though. Look! Words! Blog!
I want to be a woman who does things. Blogging. Cooking. Painting!
I bought canvases and oil paints and a wooden pallets and some brushes and a desktop easel. I know nothing about oil painting. This should be interesting. I've wanted to paint with oils my whole life. Time to make it happen. I'm not getting any younger.
What are you doing today? If you weren't doing that, what would you rather be doing?
Tuesday, October 13, 2015
Guys, I'm on fire. Not Literally. If I was literally on fire, I would be stopping, dropping, and rolling. Swearsies. My heart is on fire. That sounds like I have heartburn, which is not the case because I am not pregnant. I'm not pregnant! Saying (typing) those words makes me very happy. What a different world from where I was 5 years ago. Time changes everything. Right? Or do all things stay the same? Either way, as desperate as I was to be pregnant five years ago is as glad as I am today to not be pregnant.
What were we talking about?
I'm going to change the world.
(Save this page to a favorites somewhere. You'll want to come back to it again one day and you'll be all, "I'll be damned. She said she was going to do something. And she did. Good on her.")
I don't know how just yet. But I'm going to. I can feel it.
I imagine my kids will be a bit older when it happens, when it all plays out, when all of my hard work comes to fruition. I think that's probably the case because, well, I haven't started anything yet. That's not entirely true; I have a load of towels in the washer. Towels are not earth shattering or world changing, though. Maybe they could be for someone who'd never seen a towel before or known the absorbent joys of towels, but I don't think towels are going to be my claim to fame.
How do you want to be remembered?
What did you do today? If all you were remembered by was what you accomplished today, how would people mourn you?
I had a really good day today. I've had a few of them in a row, in fact. I feel good. I feel capable. I feel strong. The guilt and shame and self-hate are pretty quiet. The anger isn't flaring as quickly, as easily.
I'm 35 years old. When I was 14, I thought I had the whole world figured out. I continued to believe that as I got older, even as my opinions and experiences changed and grew - each time I learned something new, each time I experienced something I'd never experienced before, I still walked away feeling like I had it all figured out. I never considered that I don't actually know anything, which is why there are so many new and unique things out there to experience and learn. Am I making any sense? Probably not. That's okay. The point is that i'm finally realizing...what? My place in the world? How small I am, how insignificant? I'm realizing how much I don't know, how much I can never know, and that scares me. Things like who really shot JFK and did aliens build the pyramids and is God real - those aren't answers I'll get in this lifetime. And I don't know if I believe there's another lifetime to be had, so that scares me. I'm scared a lot. People scare me, mostly. I'm afraid of the people I love dying. I'm afraid of people not liking me. I'm afraid that maybe I'm wrong, that maybe people aren't actually inherently good, that they won't usually do the right thing when they are presented with the opportunity and means to do so.
I have this theory that if I could just sit down, one on one, with all of the "bad guys" out there, I could explain to them why they should stop being mean and start trying to help. I could hug them and let them cry out their hurts and sadness and pain, and I could tell them that it's all going to be okay, that we'll start fresh and it will all be just fine. Everything can be fixed. I could fix them some vegetable soup and cornbread and a big glass of milk and they could just sit and eat and feel safe and not judged.
But, you know, reality. I mean, seriously. Some of those people don't even think women are human. And then I get jaded again, because how do you start a dialog with people like that? And the problem is so deep, I don't know that it can be solved. That sounds too flip for how grave it is for me to say it. How to do you fix something so broken?
Jimi told me early in our relationship that I have a young soul. It was a polite way of saying I'm naïve, I figured. I am naïve. Extremely so. I want to believe everything you tell me. I want to judge you on your intentions. People keep telling me that's a bad idea, it's unsafe. I was going to agree with them. But you know what? It's not always a bad idea, or unsafe. Sometimes it's what a person needs. And sometimes it's dumb as shit. My problem is that I don't have the filter to distinguish between the two.
Hurt people hurt people. Happy people don't hurt people. Right? Is it that simple?
I'm getting too deep. That's not where I wanted to swim to tonight. Can we raincheck this discussion for now? I have other things I wanted to get to.
I think i'm going to run for political office. Not really. I would love it, except for all the work that comes along with it. I'm so lazy. Seriously. Or maybe i'm mistaking lazy for tired. For intellectually unstimulated.
I can't be a politician because I can't remember anyone's name, and i'm incapable of schmoozing. Something happened to me along the way, something that broke my confidence. I suspect it was the deep shame I felt when I miscarried. That also is not what I came here to discuss. Why do I keep taking all of these detours? Raincheck again, please.
I want to help people. I want to do something that makes peoples' lives better. It may sound trite, but I genuinely want to win the lottery so I can travel the world doing cool shit while also managing several charitable trusts.
Can I tell you about my day? This is my blog. Of course I can tell you about my day. Last night, Geneva pooped on the potty. (That didn't happen today, but it's my blog, so I can mention it if I want to. it was the first time. It's a big stinky deal.) Then, I worked until the wee hours of the morning to knock out a project i'm pretty sure my boss thought was probably impossible. His boss emailed me to thank me for my efforts. And I woke up to an email saying I'm now officially a Starbucks Gold Card Member (may take up to six weeks for actual gold card to arrive with it's balance of $4.59). And then, I came home to a mail that said American Express just upped my limit. Fuckin' A. (I had bad credit left over from bad decisions for a pretty good while, so it feels really awesome to have really good credit for a change. We're considering maxing out everything and "disappearing", but realize that is impossible because we have kids and responsibilities and shit.) And my husband was nice, and my kids were adorable and sweet, and dinner was good, and I know what I'm wearing to work tomorrow...it was just a really, really, exceptionally good day. I should've bought a lottery ticket.
Tomorrow, I'm going to change the world. Or at least get started on figuring out what exactly it is that i'm going to do to change the world. If I have an extra minute.
If you have an extra minute, talk to me. Please? In the words of RadGuy, UR THOTS?