Wednesday, July 13, 2016
This is not an average night in the Fowler household.
I keep telling myself, "You'd probably see quicker results from your gym time if you'd stop eating cookies after working out." But then I reply with, "But I've EARNED these cookies," and it's true so the argument ends until next time and I eat the cookies and swallow every delicious bite of guilt. We don't discuss the beer anymore - we all know I'm not giving that up.
The highs and lows of parenthood continue to surprise the shit out of me regularly. Three year olds are so moody I find myself cringing at the idea of dealing with this human as she morphs into a hormonal teenager - how will we survive? She screams and yells and says, "I don't LIKE you! I don't WANT you!" She runs to her room and slams the door behind her. She hits her sister when she's not allowed to have a sucker. And then she says something like, "When I grow up, I want to be just like you Mommy, and drive my green car to Old MacDonald's and say, 'May I please have a large coffee with eight creams and sugars?'" and my heart skips a beat and melts and I just adore everything about this little creature we created who is so awesome and adorable.
The baby, the one who isn't a baby anymore, who is going to be two before Thanksgiving - the baby is the sweetest baby in the entire world, with a smile that lights up the room and the shittiest of moods. Her temperament makes you forget that it's 3 a.m. when she coos and says "Mama!" and giggles when you walk into her room because she still wakes up in the middle of the night to nurse. Every night. But she's sweet and so you forgive...until that moment when you don't give her what she wants at the moment she wants it. Then she becomes a screaming banshee beast who will scratch and claw and bite and cry until you placate her wants and desires.
That's all before 6 a.m. Every day. This shit is not for those with a weak constitution.
My new job is so fabulous and amazing and wonderful. I love my job. I love the people I work with, I love the work I'm doing, I love my boss. We can take our dogs to work. My bonus paid my car payment last month.
Now it's after midnight. I have heartburn. I need to go to bed.
Sunday, June 5, 2016
tonight's one of those nights, did you guess?
It feels like they've cried for weeks, from the time they get up until the time they go to bed, over everything and nothing all at the same time. We've been sick for weeks, all of us. They started a new daycare. Life is full of challenges to our daily normal lately, and none of us is handling it well but you'd think at least the grownups could manage to not lose their shit. And we did, for the first week and a half or so. By Wednesday this week, though, I was over it, and I asked Mom if they would keep the girls for us tonight so that we could just have a break, have a night to sleep. (They don't do that, either. They take turns waking up over and over again through the night - cora cries if she doesn't get milkies, Geneva cries if I won't go lay down with her. It's constant musical beds and demands and whining and I'm just so fucking over it.) There was a meltdown en route to grandma's, though - G was losing her shit at the idea of staying the night away from us, from me specifically. She's super clingy like that all of a sudden, in the last 4 or 5 days. I blame the new daycare situation - it's a huge change. And the fact that she's also felt like crap, right along with the rest of us, that makes for a volatile situation. So we didn't go to grandma's, we came home. We had a plan. Our plan was to transfer the now-sleeping Cora from the car to the bed and then set G up in the living room on her cot with a movie and we could just chill and let her do her thing until she fell asleep. Cora woke up on the way into the house, because the firefighters out collecting for crusade for children blew their siren and horn as they drove past our driveway as Jimi was getting her out of the car. Fuckers. So then I had to try to nurse her to sleep, because she wasn't down with just laying down with Daddy. She wouldn't go to sleep.
Tuesday, April 26, 2016
The moon will be coming up soon...i know that because i can see Mars now, and i know the moon follows shortly after in the lower left of my panoramic oceanfront view.
This is amazing. It's Tuesday. The girls are finally sleeping. Jimi and mom and dad are all in bed. I'm alone on the balcony with a hard root beer trying to suck up every single possible moment of this vacation. It's been such a long time coming. I'm so thrilled to be here. I dont want to waste a moment.
The wind is getting cold. I should get a jacket or blanket or change into pants or something. I want to go down to the beach and sit in the little chair hut thing dad rented for the week, but I'm a woman so the idea of going somewhere alone and isolated at night is scary. Have to weigh the potential experience against the possibility of being raped and murdered, just because, you know, I have a vagina and that's what society has taught me. Ugh.
I'll probably stay here. Maybe. Still havent seen the moon, but it's coming.
I downloaded a star chart app last night and it scared me. Maybe because it was red for night mode. Maybe the bad new age music. Maybe I was a little too high. But i pointed it down, and it showed me constellations on the other side of the world, in another sky, and it freaked me out and I had to turn that shit off and sit down. I felt a little dizzy, a little sick to my stomach. It was odd and strange and a little funny.
I wish there was a cigarette lying around out here somewhere.
I've been swimming and lying in the sun and there's more of that on the agenda for tomorrow. Life is sweet.
Wednesday, April 6, 2016
I pretty much love everything about life right now.
My husband is awesome. My kids are awesome. My job is awesome. There's a lot of awesome. Guys, my kitchen sink is clean. My husband did that, cleaned up the dinner dishes after he emptied the dishwasher. I mean, how much better can it get, I ask you?
As low as I was over the holidays, that's as high as I am right now. I'm weightless.
Except that i tend to eat when I'm happy and im currently close to 20 pounds heavier than I was in October. D'oh! Whatevs. I'm gonna go eat this pie and ice cream and drink a beer and watch zombies. With my dish-washin' husband.
Monday, March 28, 2016
I've been at my new job for three weeks, and I love it. I want to say I should've made this change years ago, but things happen when they're supposed to happen, and this happened at just the right moment, I think. I feel like any effort to make a change sooner couldn't possibly have landed me in such a perfect position.
My coworkers are smart and capable and helpful and friendly. My boss is smart, and seems to be a good manager. The office is new and modern and comfortable. The environment is relaxed and casual and everyone drops the occasional f-bomb. The commute sucks, but nothing is perfect and if this job must have a downside, I'll take a 30-40 minute drive over mismanagement and assholes any day.
I've discovered that I like podcasts – Limetown and Tanis and The Black Tapes and Women of the Hour have been my favorites so far. I can listen to podcasts while I work – just listen along as I plug in numbers and letters. For lunch each day, when the weather is nice, there are two parks within a short drive where I can walk. There's also a Meijer and a Kohl's and a million delicious fattening food options.
I can't get over how different this job is from my last. I mean, they got my direct deposit entered in time for my first check to be deposited directly into my account. That's funny because, at the last place, it wasn't uncommon for a new employee to still be waiting for their direct deposit to be set up after three months. Also a new experience – when I have a question, they have charts and tables and places I can look and reference to find information. This isn't a business run completely by passed-down tribal knowledge! They have shit written down! It's amazing.
I am so happy I made this move, and I can feel the change in every aspect of my life. I'm happier when I leave work, so I'm happier when I get home, so I am in a better mood with Jimi and the girls. I have more energy to play, and their meltdowns don't result in a meltdown of my own as often. I'm more patient, more inclined to say yes, more motivated to do the daily grind stuff. My stomach doesn't hurt when I wake up in the middle of the night and think about work. I don't have a pit in my stomach or that ever-present feeling of dread when I'm driving to work. My life doesn't feel full of anxiety and stress anymore.
Yay for Change!